Becoming a Great Woman

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I remember as a young adult during my undergrad years asking myself, “What qualities make a Great woman and am I her?” I couldn’t help but walk down the lane of my past, thinking about all the pain bottled up within me from all the many times I was misused, abused, and taken advantage of. Those years of agonizing abuse made me feel as if my soul was taken from me and I was robbed and had lost power to become a great woman. I wondered often when I would finally arrive to that place called healing that I had often heard and read about; where I would finally be free, unstoppable, amazing and yes, “A Great Woman.”
The pains I so early experienced persuaded me to believe that I was not worthy enough, good enough, smart enough or tough enough to be a great woman. It bullied me to believe I didn’t have enough wit to rise above; hence, could never be woman enough yet alone a great one. In my thoughts and prayers I was eager to know what makes a woman great. Is it her beauty? Her shape or how voluptuous she is? Was it how thick, long or curly her hair was? Maybe it was the softness or pigment of her skin? If not then maybe it’s, the sound of her voice how subtle she laughs? I wanted to know because I desired to become a great woman.
As I prayerfully continued my quest of becoming a great woman, I found myself asking, what is the strength that a woman posses that makes her great and powerful? Or the obstinacy that keeps her grounded and determined? What about her love and radiance that draws people, her family and even kids to her like a magnet? Her courage in spite of all odds against her, she’s unshakable? What’s the secret element to becoming a great woman?
From the whisper of God I learned through that journey of inquiry, there within my pains was the answer. Within my brokenness God affirmed in me the answer is not in becoming a great woman but rather being a great woman/person. Being a great and honorable woman is not about external appearances, achievements or putting on a facade of being in control but rather, embracing and accepting the power of God to live in strength, courage, love, faith, grace and with determination to press forward beyond the walls of fear, inconvenience, and other paralytic conformities to service God and others.
Being a Great woman is about receiving God’s hope, healing, empowerment and knowing you’re forgiven and restored. Your past is behind yet pushes you forward to fully live and thrive in your purpose. It is not being free from mistakes or pain. It’s being free from the bondage of the symptoms of pain; guilt, shame and when it creeps in your mind or into your daily life, you press forward knowing love on the cross experienced and understand brokenness, pain…BUT on the 3rd day love introduced HOPE. So in your journey of being a great woman, press forward in hope, faith and trust the PROCESS of discovering and being who you already are, A GREAT WOMAN!